Lanai's Diary

With the "Avolution" in Virtual World Participation, Is it becoming a threat to basic social skills leaving people deprived of physical affection and interaction with others in their real world?

In my years of exploring the various "chatrooms" beginning with Webtv.

It started with the curiosity to know more about others who made a daily routine of reading text and emoticons scrolling up a screen. In a room we chose by common interests and topics, We became "regs" trusting eachother enough to share emails, photos , phonecalls and even meetings.

When I moved to another City my connection to all my online friends was lost. (I was a complete noob to the internet at the time) Years later I still think of them from time to time and realize now, what an impact they all made on me. We shared personal stories, gave advice, got advice, laughed, cried and for that moment in time, we all bonded.

 Then came The Sims Online, IMVU, There, Ages of Empires, Xbox Live, Final Fantasy, Second Life and others Where people could take forms of Avatars with their own personal style engaging in role play fantasies or mimicking reality.

This concept blew the door open to New Emotions and Situations that fuel how we are with eachother, including the common "Online Dramatics". Is it really real what we experience here or even necessary to imposed negative energies on others who are trying to get away from their own stresses of life?

 How do you protect yourself from it so you can enjoy SL?

It's difficult to distance yourself from people you consider friends to protected your own sanity from the constant roller coaster of emotions one can suffer at the hands of others. Often times giving honest advice, ends up being taken for granted and never really applied.

  Eventually it becomes a cycle that never ends, defeating the purpose of seeking online entertainment in the first place. There are those who end up alone because they have no more friends to rain their troubles on anymore.

  I have observed these experience time and time again and began to see the extent of peoples actions and emotions. Including my own, and what makes us keep coming back.

My heart breaks when I know someone is suffering. The least I can do is try to help bring a smile.

Everyone has their own opinions, views, personalities, goals and prejudices coming into the virtual world. Accepting people for who they are and protecting yourself from energy vampires is each of our biggest priorites in both lives. Allowing them to suck you dry in a virtual world is foolish when logging off is an easier option.

 There is no preventing Drama. Wherever there are people, it's a given. It has almost become a necessity to keep the action going. Drawing us in deeper... Allowing others to affect our moods and Reducing us to the very core of ourselves. Do we contribute without even knowing it?

As the real world changes around us and more people turn to virtual environments for cheaper forms of entertainment, The question about the threat to our real social life remains but one must ask themself...

Is the time we spend here aiding our well being & Happiness, helping others or is the very thing we come here for harming us?

 

~Lanai

Entry- Monday November 10, 2008

Dear Diary, Yes..it's been a few weeks since I've rambled on about this journey I call my Slife..

Lately the whole prim baby idea has been put on the backburner while I've been handling some business, shaking sticks at the haters, cleaning up SLE a bit and working on some new projects, even here a well thought out plan for having babies and whatnot is a process that needs clear thinking and right now...I dont' think I can pencil in a Prim baby. (sorry to those on the edge of your seat to watch the drama unfold)

 Things are changing, SLE is growing and needing more time but at the end of the day I can atleast sit back and relax a bit and play catch up with some friends.... and sleep.

ENTRY- Thursday October 23, 2008

BACK TO THE GRIND

Dear Diary,

It’s been 2 weeks and I’m still not pregnant!… Not that I been practicing or anything… *innocent look*

 I’m begining to think any mention of a Prim babies acts as a repellant to the Guys in second life. Especially to those that or bold enough to approach me wanting a piece *sighs*Even those shameless pervs stopped calling… What’s a girl to do? I guess I will go back to partying like a rockstar or with them and just continue to keep my figure as I explore Second Lifes nooks and cranies. I may just put this baby thing off until a Prince Chaming comes along that doesn’t mind being part of the soap opera I call my SLife.

Either way don’t be upset that this is taking a little longer then expected for me, who knows what trouble I’ll get into in the weeks to come. Maybe I might decided to be a vampire , try working the pole as a second job or even have a wild Las Vegas Night and end up married to a Noob…

~Lanai

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Entry-Monday October 13, 2008

Rehab?

I have a confession to make and if I didnt use my diary to let it all out..what would be the purpose of having it?

Either way I'm sure to embarass myself or turn my SLife into a Daytime Soap Drama. Last week and the week before that I had my avie heart set on having a prim baby but hit some road blocks with errily familiar needs required to bring a bundle of prims into this crazy virtual world. A man or other "contributor to the prim gene" and without a doubt at least 10k in savings to pay for it all.

I'm sure It boggles my friend's minds that I decided on such a ...random adventure so here's my chance to explain my actions

 (for all you diary readers too , yea you!)

My Idea for going thru with it has everything to do with pro choice in SL. It's not to chain myself to a cheap 1 prim stove and "settle down" in Second Life. That would be boring and too traditional...

The purpose is to document what its like going thru each stage and seeing what random ordeals I will have to endure with a shouting belly demanding a glass of milk and some rest all the time. Will I be accepted by my peers?

 According to those closest to me, I have zero patience and a raging Workaholic. Which is true but I would take time out to practice my acting skills and pin the baby on someone, have dramatic episodes in each stage of gestation and even freak out in the delivery room all for your reading pleasure.

(First baby photos will be 500K tyvm)

Not that I'm trying to take the shine from Drama kings and queens that are acting all over second Life I figured this would be an interesting new adventure since I want to have a Second life too.. But before I go ahead and get myself in trouble..I have a confession to make. I have a terrible SL addiction and will be "In Rehab" Until October 19. During this time, I'm gonna to refrain from working for a week and even ween myself off of strip clubs to prepare myself for this 9 week Documentary.

~Lanai

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Entry- Friday October 3, 2008

IF IT AIN'T ONE DRAMA ITS ANOTHER...

As I sit here in the castle wondering what to do with myself, I figured it would be the perfect time to continue my topic from my last entry when I announced I was having a baby and didnt know who the dad was... Apparently I have avies readin' my diary and asking me If I'm pregnant yet, who the daddy is and even one who wants to throw me a baby shower! *coughs* Tammy Toll *couch* lmao

I'm sure my diary was roughed up a bit as yall scrambled to read a potential Jerry Springer type of situation involving me knocked up and confused...

 Not to disappoint anyone who would have found that amusing but Nope I'm not pregnant...yet but thanks to those that have been contacting me to ask about the impending bundle of prims...I forgot to consider a very important part of having a baby...no not the daddy..but omg the expenses! over 10k worth if you want to go thru it the right way. With the whole tandum belly pack that tell you when to get it on for a possible conception, another belly pack with various stages of gestation topped off with clinic appointments, lamaze, baby accessories and oh yea..the baby..

It makes me wonder, even here I need a man (sugar daddy in this case) to share this financial blessing/burden with or a big bill will be in my future...

Let's see if I get any response from this one...

~Lanai

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Entry- Thursday September 25, 2008

I'M HAVING A BABY AND I DON'T KNOW WHO THE DAD IS...

Here goes another spillage of random thoughts about this week...

Aside from Summer being officially over, getting a chance to sample Second Life's Worst Musician, Working, working and more working...I've been thinking about tryin something new,lately I have been entertaining the thought of popping out a prim baby just so I can document going thru the whole pregnancy experience here . I don't have a baby daddy, so I guess i'll be going thru it alone ...I'm ok with that...Ithink.

  (if you wanna be the daddy, call me) jk I'll go for Artifical Primsemination...

The whole reason for this random endevour is the need for a better understanding of why I keep seeing knocked up avies all over the place but rarely see anyone with a baby on their hip or strapped to their back on a harness of sorts.

Don't get me wrong, It's a beautiful thing to see a waddling avie with her significant other being happy and enjoying second life but what I dont get is knocked up chicks dancing crazy in clubs,wearing something that doesn't even hide the stretch marks and with heels on top of all that! Ladies...have some dignity you got a baby growing in you! go chain yourself to a stove. Anyway, It's an interesting concept and one I need to explore and figure out why it exists and things Like, where do all these mystery babies end up? Theres gotta be a day care around here or atleast Parenting facilities that prevents new moms & dads from stashing their newborns in inventory until they decide to give birth to them again. Whatever the case may be with this Avie parenthood thing, I'll be picking out what my baby's sex will be ,what it will look like, get it boxed up,my prenatal appointments booked and I'm good to go!

~Lanai Jarrico

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Lanai’s Diary Entry

Monday September 15, 2008

What’s Slove got to do with it?

Dear Diary,

 I’m in the mood to talk about Sl Romance, It seems to be everywhere I look and the questions about who I’m with is always coming up…like ”oohh who’s that new guy?”,”who was that guy from yesterday?”Who was that last week?” “how many men do you have?”, “Let’s get married”, “are you a lesbien?!?” umong other questions.

 I think inquiring minds wanna know what really goes on behind the scenes, even in my Castle! (thank you for the lovely snapshot, paparazi lol)

 *closes the blinds*

 Not that I rezz and tell but It's rare I talk about my "slove life" to anyone but I figured why not my Dairy...

 Quite frankly I'm affraid...Not of what avies will think cause everyone has their own opinion but I just can’t get past my anxiety of those aweful paparazzi shots that end up in tabloids across the metaverse, usually of embarassing snapshots of wardrobe malfunctions, no undergarments while stepping out of vehicles or even having a stage make up and bad hair day trying to go to starbucks for a latte...

That would totally cramp my style for sure seeing how they Shred Lindsey, Britney and that Paris chick to pieces In the real world . I can only imagine the frenzy that would occur here with all the speculations and whatnot. I think If I decided tomorrow to put my blackbook up for an SL Auction I’m sure it would blow the top off SL’s A-list Community and maybe I'll be able to help pay some tiers..But I don’t want all that attention...

*cracks up* relax, I'm just kidding!

I Had to make a comment like that because it’s a topic that comes up in conversations all the time .

I’m beginning to think I can’t be seen in public with a Hot guy or Girl! without watchful eyes kicking up ideas of what really goes on in my im when I’m standing around all quiet. Even when I’m liplocking or being a cuddle bunny in plain view…maybe I'm discussing Newtons Laws, This week's sports rundowns or maybe even discussing a new recipe for "Special" brownies with a friend in Amsterdam.

Keep it movin avies, there’s nothing to see here…It’s Just (my) business

*fixes halo*

~Lanai

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Saturday September 6, 2008

WOW *swats at all the dust build up on my diary*

Dear Diary, Sorry I abandoned you for so long, it was not my intensions, I have just been so busy...

A Wise avie once said , "As long as you are busy, you know you are still in business"

That keeps me positive (even if I take the longest route)

but It's been a while since I've rambled on here and I feel the need to express myself...

 

Throughout the years, I've noticed a trend In the Summer time, there's a lot less Residents and activites going on here Second Life and when (rl) winter rolls around, it gets busier here making it "The New Summer" and I'm SOOO looking forward to a (SL )Summer vacation!

 With Summer coming to an End as the Fall/Winter Seasons begins, all the hybernating residnets will begin to trickle back. I can't wait to see what this season will bring.

Lately SLife has been a lot of work for our team who have been helping pull The SL Enquirer/Corruption Plaza Sim together. Things are starting to happen and its getting exciting.

Sound valley Concert Grounds is now having more concert, Club Lanai parties are happening 3 times a week and SLE is being updated more.

For me, It's been a constant rotation of meeting avies, new ideas coming and going, even getting a little dose of drama From griefers and other (BullBLEEP) that happens here and there.. , (even I'm not immmuned to drama lol).

I just feel I should go easy on some of them sometimes and not be a vigilante writer putting them all on blast in SL police reports . ...

Maybe I'll feel different by Monday ...

  One thing I had to remind myself is try to make the best decisions I could and stay focused on my purpose here. My Friends are important to me and Entertainment is what I want to have and bring to others.

The reason I am here in the first place. dispite those who try to make my SLife or other's SL difficult and or miserable. My hopes are that we all can enjoy Second Life in a way we can "live and let live" causing the least amount of stress on another.

Now if Only we can get through this Current issue we all face...

Second Life Customer Service! i'm sure everyone is flustered by the waves of recent issues causing avies to crash land, teleportation malfunctions, loss of hair and other accessories and worst of all...NOT BEING ABLE TO LOG IN!

Somethings gotta give! *calls my thearapist*

~Lanai Jarrico

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Saturday August 16, 2008

Dear Diary,

It's been a week since I rambled on in my diary about whatever I feel at the moment. I'm glad to say I don;t need to jot down anymore words of encouragement to myself until my next crisis... I figured I'll just do what I do and enjoy myself and let the pests stay ignored and keep on keepin on.

I spent my week working hard with my team tying up loose ends for The SL Enquirer/ Corrupted Plaza Sim and getting ready to Plan the Hottest Block Party In Second Life. (Hey... a girl can have dreams)

~Lanai

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Saturday August 2, 2008

Reflection and Encouragement

Dear Diary, It's been a long week with lots of reflection on where SLE is today from when it first began. It's been quite the journey with many hits and misses. My job is not easy but I accept it as my own and something I can be proud of. I've learned a lot on my journey here. Some things I learned with a bad experience only to rise above it and Move on.

The rewards are meeting good people who are in second life for the same purpose which is Fun .

My intentions in Second Life are good, I just want to share SLE with whoever is interested in it. I have no binding rules or expectations except trust those who are nearest to me.

 This week has been particularly difficult as I manage the paper and make sure The New SIM will be a blast when we launch it.

  One thing I wish to accomplish is a place were people can come together for the love of the game and be cool with eachother.

 Reflecting on a few difficult decisions I've had to make, I remain positive, focused and I will move forward in my goals.

~Lanai

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Tuesday July 29, 2008

Dear Diary,

Aaahhh... It's been a while since I went on a rambling Spree but I've been sooo busy .

I'm told I'm a Worhaholic and I admit that, proudly even. but I do take a lil time out to find deals, meet new people and even dumpster dive from time to time. But Since I've been back from vacation, Trapped Underwood, owner of Corrupted Innocence gave me the green light to create The SLE Sim! so Together with The SLE Team (which are some the most talented people I've ever meet and my great friends.) We put together our resources and created a Downtown Atmosphere Where our visitors can indulge in Live Entertainment at Sound Valley Concert Grounds,Exclusive Parties at Club Lanai , the New SLE Castle, Shopping and other needs and Services like a photo studio, our Media Center and Public Relations office there's already lots to do but construction is still going on... but when it's complete, the real fun will begin!

~Lanai

 

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Tuesday July 8, 2008

Dear Diary, Looking back at picks from my last few vacations.... I think I've got it all out of my system for now...

I’m back from vacation and I must say that was soooo needed . I feel refreshed and ready to explore New Places, Spotlight New Faces and bring SLE fans what they want to read about…if only I can get thru these 268 vacation emails, offlines, Spams from those fake African banks needing urgent replies... Love letters, Hate mail, bill collectors and e greeting cards.

 fast enough so I can hang out , go on a couple dates, window shop and hit some major party Spots before Summer is over.

Between work and play I’m sure to be kept busy, Maybe I’ll save the extra juicy details of my vacations for my new Book going on Sales in the fall …

~Lanai

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7-3-08

Dear Diary,

I'm feeling better after lastnight crazy outting...

 It's been a long time since I busted out my diary it feels so good jotting down my thoughts even bringing out my dramatic side like I did with my last entries all for the sake of venting and writing about all my experiences good and bad.

Some days loom over me like a dark cloud and other days the most outrageous things happen and brings out the Sun again.

My friends are the reason I stand on my soapbox and taking a step back I have no complaints because it's worth the crazy ride...*pops dramamine *

 

This week's vacation from "working" will do me some good I can already tell

..Now if only I could put down this diary!

~Lanai

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7-2-08

Dear Diary,

 I woke up on the right side of the bed today wow lol

My first day on vacation was interesting I sent my work clothes to the cleaners ,put on my beachwear and went to Laguna beach with a friend to test out floatation devices and just have some fun in the sun...then somehow we ended up going"member" shopping at (BLEEP) World but he ended up settling for a freebie from some bargain basement...Exhausted from the days events I opted to go to bed while he played with his new toy.

~Lanai

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7-1-08

DEAR DIARY,

Ever wake up on the wrong side of the bed and think what you do has no significant value to anyone around you but yourself?

You work so hard to run yourself in circles just for the sake of entertaining someone else, expecting help from others who say they support you only to realize your alone in your struggle and shouldnt expect anything...even from your own friends...

Maybe juggling 2 existences is more then one person can handle if the work you do isnt even for you...

 Maybe at the end we all run into the same problems.

Missing out on more important things...like real life and the problems that bring on the same feelings..

wasting time on things that dont't benefit you or worse, did nothing for anybody else..

voicing ideas & opinions on deaf ears...

being taken advantage of, for granted or used...

it's all the same whether its in real life or the vitual.... personal issues , living issues, business issues, friend issues or just stuff that pops up laying rubbish in your way...Is it all part of a pointless coexistance?

Who really benefits if your unhappy?

*plays the violin*

~Lanai Jarrico

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